Bullying At School (4 part series)
- Part 1 - Principals Can Be Bullies Too
- Part 2 - When Teachers Are Your Child's Bully
- Part 3 - When Life is Your Childs Bully At School
- Part 4 - Street Smart Kidz Plan To Stop Bullying In Schools
Part 1 - Principals Can Be Bullies Too
First, as studies in Canada show, 87% of Canadian Principals have
never had a hint or allegation concerning bullying leveled against
them. When MOST school Principals are acting like bullies, they are
usually unaware they are doing it. Could have been a tough day dealing
with students. With teachers. With teachers unions. Problems at home.
Could be anything. Principals have a tough job, yet make no mistake,
they also have a very documented history of bullying students.
Exstensive research shows, when Principals act like bullies with children, they are Middle School or High School Principals, 79.6% will be male Principals and their victims are surprisingly just as many male as female students.
This is a cross Canada issue, Vancouver Island to St.Johns NFLD, it's disgusting and even more HORRIFIC for the victim than being bullied by a peer/classmate because Principals and Teachers are supposed to be the "protector's" and "saviour's" of the weak and innocent, by definition of all anti bullying programs, which are mandatory in all of our Canadain schools!
Let me share a example of bulling in a High School that happened in B.C. this week that was absolutely stunning in it's stupidity by the school administration. I've chatted with a few legal minds about it, they assure us, the parents have a "lock" case of abuse.
Here are the details, you decide.
Two grade nine students attend the same High School. Their mothers
have had issue's with each other in the past. Student A attends a
class with Student B. Student A brings his IPhone to class. During
class, all students are allowed to get up and roam or sit where ever.
School ends two hours later. Student A realizes his IPhone is missing.
Goes home, tells Mom. Mom & Student A arrive at High School next morning, and inform
Principal and Vice Principal, Student B STOLE the IPhone because
Student B sat at Student A's chair for 5 minutes during the previous
days class.
The wheels of BULLYING is swinging into action!
Student B was pulled out of his class, in front of his classmates,
taken to his locker & made to dump it as well as his pockets. All in
front of passing by students. The male student held himself together
and didn't break down at the injustice of the situation. The next day
the IPhone was turned into the Lost & Found at the school. The Vice
Principal thinks it was her speech to the class that returned the
IPhone. The class thinks the Vice Principal is a "incompetent" because
everyone knows one of Student A's friend's "hid it" to watch him freak
out, telling 4 class mates while taking the IPhone, "watch this". Yes,
we have their statements to back this story up!
A NON - Bullying Principal Would Not:
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allow a student to be yanked out of a classroom on a theft allegation, they would meet the child at the door at class end and ask to talk about it, otherwise, start the gossip, innuendo, rumours and garbage that DESTROY young lives and add statistics to our national suicide rate
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they would ask if the student would like their parents to join them for any conversations or actions taken against them before a locker search so the child feels protected, which didn't happen, the child went through this alone, in front of everyone
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they would never parade them down a hallway and make them dump their locker while other students are walking around, instead they would ask the entire class to empty their lockers so no one is singled out
When the parents found out about this pathetic, unjust exercise, they contacted the Principal who agreed a "huge" mistake had been made and would apoligize immediately to the student, which he did, 48 hrs later and calling the student by an incorrect name, then having the "incompetent" Vice-Principal call the parents, instead of following up on his "PROMISE" to call them personally.
Street Smart Kidz of Canada
has "all school communications and statements from the 4 students" to
back up the above story.
So Parents!
Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. The absolute majority will be
students in your child's school. You will need the help of your school's
administration to get you through these tough times. That means
Principals, Vice-Principals and Teachers. As with everything in life,
make sure everyone follow's through on their promises and get's
results!